Becoming Intentionally Selfish with Naketa Ren Thigpen


I love and have embraced the term “intentionally selfish” since I first heard it. To be intentionally selfish is to be unapologetic for raising yourself up. It is to give yourself what you need to heal, and to let go of all the shame from the experiences you went through. This episode is all about being “intentionally selfish.” It’s a gift to yourself, an encouragement to move you further in your healing journey, and a discovery of your goals.

My guest, Naketa Ren Thigpen, is breaking down the importance of being intentionally selfish. She’s a Balance and Relationship advisor, combining the tenants of licensed clinical social work, psychotherapy, trauma work, metaphysics, and coaching. She’s the CEO of personal development company, ThigPro Balance and a podcast host. Also the author of Selfish: Permission to Pause, Live, Love and Laugh Your Way to Joy.

“I’m rebellious by nature. It’s just in my core. You tell me ‘We have to go down this block,’ and I’ll follow you down the block the first time. But I’m literally doing it so I can see the shortcuts that I can do the second time.” – Naketa Ren Thigpen

Topics discussed in this episode:

  • We need to make the decision for ourselves that we’ve had enough and need to change and heal.

  • We can either “stay in the box” or “break the box”. We need to choose what we would do.

  • Do not minimize the pain and experiences you went through just because it’s not worse than what other people have gone through.

  • The long game is knowing how to play it, but also finding out your unique shortcuts and ways so you can actually win the game you’re trying to play.” – Naketa Ren Thigpen

    Naketa shares her story, how a childhood experience impacted her, needing to learn to let go of a burden that she wasn’t supposed to bear, and how to deal with the shame that went with the experience.

    She also breaks down G.I.F.T. which stands for gratitude, imagine, forgiveness, and take action. She describes this process of healing as a gift we give to ourselves. Naketa guides us through each letter and how we can apply them.

    If you want to work with Naketa, consider the Intentionally Selfish Suite. It is a Personal Development Incubator deliberately designed to equip and certify women entrepreneurs as they evolve, arrive, and expand the version of themselves that’s unchained, free, unconquerable, and spacious enough to create work/life that serves their highest good.

    This episode is jam-packed with Naketa’s wealth of knowledge, words of wisdom, life lessons, and relatable experiences. Listen to the full episode to hear everything she shares.

    Links from Today’s Episode:

    ThigPro Website

    Naketa Ren Thigpen LinkedIn

    Balance Boldly Podcast